Hi all! I'm so glad to have you here.
It's been awhile since I've written a blog post. I figured that in my free time today, I could make a blog post about my favorite things about living in China.
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| Our recent Saturday out exploring Bagua-tian (a replica of the Song dynasty octagonal field farmed by the emperor himself.) I like this picture of Lu a lot. |
Family-
This is definitely one of the most important factors of my Chinese expat life. I have a unique perspective to offer on the Chinese family culture as I'm married into one! Although it's still difficult for me to fully communicate with my in-laws since I don't speak much Chinese-much less Hangzhou dialect-we still get along well with our limited conversation. My husband, Lu, is our only real hope of making sure we understand each other.
We almost always get together on the weekend, usually on Sunday night, for dinner at my in-laws' house. This way, we can keep up on what's going on each other's lives (and I can enjoy my mother-in-law's delicious cooking!) By now, she knows all my personal favorites of hers, and she makes sure to prepare them when we come over for dinner. Even more, she makes sure that my favorite dish is placed right in front of me on the table for easy access with my chopsticks!
Life with a Chinese family has really taught me about respect for one another especially in the unspoken things we do for each other. American culture is much more about direct communication of our love. We hug each other, kiss each other, and say "I love you." In most East Asian cultures--read Japanese, Korean,Chinese--symbols of our love are much more implicit. For example, my in-laws always insist on setting and clearing the dinner table by themselves. I always manage to grab a few empty dishes and take them to the kitchen, but I always get reprimanded for trying to help out. They insist on me sitting down on the couch and relaxing. "Eat some fruit!"-they say. Talk about true hospitality. Even though I'm family!
Moreover, I always return to our apartment downtown to find it stocked with enough milk, yogurt, bread, and fruit to last us through the weekend (or longer!) So much for adult responsibilities and shopping for ourselves. In fact, I had to tell my mother-in-law that she was giving us more oranges than we could possibly ever eat. "Please, tell your mother, no more oranges!" I said to Lu two weeks in a row. Even more, when she comes for an apartment re-stocking, she'll often fold our clothes still left out on the clothesline, and lay them in a neat stack on the bed.
My father-in-law is also great. Despite the facts his father is in hospice (so he's commuting almost every day to take care of him) & he often has overtime at his job, he always welcomes me with a smiling face. He helps out my mother-in-law in the kitchen and hardly ever sits down inside the house. Last summer, before the G20 Summit in Hangzhou, he learned a sentence in English every day. Although I'm sure he's forgotten most of them by now, I appreciate his gusto and warm-heartedness.
Although in the past Lu's parents' beliefs have collided with mine, we all get along pretty well. Near the beginning of my expat life in China, Lu related his mother's advice after a night out: that I shouldn't wear such bright eyeshadow to family gatherings (even though I had specifically gotten compliments on it from his family members). As I believe in makeup as an important part of self-expression, that piece of "advice" didn't go over well. In fact, I bluntly told Lu that I would continue to wear the makeup I liked, if not make it even bolder to spite his mother. From that point on, I've never heard a complaint again!
Recently, Lu's father lectured that I shouldn't be playing with the street dogs outside their apartment. Really the only reason that this became an issue was because one of those cute dogs followed us up the stairwell to their apartment door and sat there waiting for me come out. I thought it was a funny situation when Lu's dad opened the door to find a ruffled little mutt sitting on the doorstep, but he was not impressed and yelled at the dog to leave. After scaring the poor little dog away, he started to lecture me about the "dangers" of dogs. I know he had my best interests at heart and this was his act of "tough love" but telling me that I couldn't pet dogs rubbed me the wrong way. I pretended to not understand his Chinese. Now I know that I just have to pet all those cute doggies when he's not watching! (And I have to keep them out of the apartment stairwell, haha!)
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| My Chinese family |
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| My darling-the reason I'm here to begin with |
The Scenery-
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| The famous pavilion at the Bamboo-lined Path at Yunqi |
It probably goes without saying that Hangzhou is of the prettiest cities in China. It has a long history of being "heaven on Earth" and the Hangzhou people are rightfully proud of their city's rich history with scenic West Lake and the surrounding hills filled with tea fields and mountaintop temples hidden within bamboo groves. Hangzhou has also made the dream of a "flower for every season" a reality. Plums, peaches, and cherry trees are planted in apartment complexes and alongside roads. Camellias, sweet osmanthus, and various annuals dot the landscape with color and fragrance. The people who designed the city really knew what they were doing!
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| Plum blossoms |
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| The famous stone Buddha at Lingyin Temple, Hangzhou |
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| Liu-he-ta (Pagoda of Six Harmonies) |
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| Plum Blossoms at Bagua-tian |
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| Fall foliage is beautiful |
Even though I do detest big-city life and I would never choose it over living in the peaceful countryside, Hangzhou is filled with plants, even in the heart of downtown. For this very reason, I'm very grateful that my husband is from Hangzhou and not some other metropolis like Shanghai (which is the opposite of green) or Hong Kong. Also, unlike expats living in Shanghai or Beijing, a mountain hike or walk alongside the lake is just minutes away by public bicycle or bus. Which leads me to my next point...
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| Public bicycle stand, image by City of Hangzhou |
The Public Bicycle System-
Hangzhou is said to have the largest public bicycle system in the world, and for that, I'm very glad. Forget about having to worry about hauling your own bicycle around and worrying about fixing your flats! This system is used by 280,000 passengers daily and helps those in Hangzhou lessen traffic on the road all while giving us much-needed excuse to stretch our legs. The first hour of use is free and past that is 20-30 cents an hour. This system is an absolute life-saver for me as a bicycle is often the fastest (and obviously cheapest) way to get around town. I would say that I use the public bicycles at least 3x a week. The initial capital for this system was paid for by the government and the ads on the bicycles and bicycle stands plus the slight fee charged after the first hour of use fund the company in charge of maintaining the system. On a sunny day, you will often see a group of bike mechanics, surrounded by a smattering of metal pieces, replacing old parts on the bicycles.
The Food-
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| All the delicious foods of Chinese New Year-egg rolls, crabs, and hotpot! |
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| Sweet lotus root |
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| Perhaps my favorite Chinese food-Shanghai soup dumplings! |
Next, I want impress on you about how affordable it is to feed yourself here. Unlike many parts of the Western world, eating out is almost the same price as doing the cooking yourself. I am now extremely spoiled about going out to eat quite often. If Lu or I don't feel like cooking, we just need to decide what restaurant we want to sponsor! Since we live downtown, there are tons around, and since living here, we've found out which ones are the best and they've become our usual haunts. We are really close with the waitress at the sushi restaurant near our place and we've brought their bustling little izakaya even more business by bringing our friends and coworkers there on the weekends to dine with us.
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| Fruit is so cheap |
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| Bubble tea is also very cheap and great for quenching that mid-afternoon hunger |
Our favorite local only-in-Hangzhou restaurant is Xin-bai-lu (aka New White Deer). It is known for its Mabo Tofu which is a mere $2 per order. It is a great value restaurant, with everything tasting delicious and a surprising quantity of food for the price. For a typical dinner with our bellies full to the brim with food and drink, we pay about $10 per person. On the downside, because of its affordability and delicious local food, every chain store of Xin-bai-lu experiences incredible popularity, to the point where you need to arrive before the dinner rush at 5:30, or risk waiting an hour to get seated. Waipo-jia (Grandma's Home) and Lü-cha (Green Tea) are some of our other local favorite restaurant chains. All serve authentic Hangzhou staples like Dongpo pork, sweet and sticky braised lotus-root stuffed with rice, West Lake sweet and sour carp, and freshwater shrimp stir-fried with green tea leaves. Ooh, I'm getting hungry just typing this up!
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| The famous West Lake sweet and sour carp and green tea shrimp |
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| Lu and I enjoyed his 31st birthday dinner at Xin-bai-lu |
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| Two cong-bao-hui coming up! |
Differences with the U.S.-
Have you ever seen duvet covers, someone's knickers, or even fish drying out under the sun under a lampost? Neither had I, until I came to China. I have seen so many things that made me say, "Only in China." I've also noticed differences that are pertinent to Asia, like using your umbrella while riding your bicycle. Although it's technically illegal in both Japan and China, everyone does it (including me.)
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| No lack of interesting things to see out in public! |
Something guaranteed to make me happy while eating out with my husband is the fact that he will refill my (and any other guest who happens to be with us) glasses whenever needed. Whether it's tea or beer, the Chinese have a saying, "fill your guest's teacup 70% full and their wine glass until it's overflowing." Sound advice to me.
Lu also tends to "take care of me" meaning that when we're eating at a big table and the dishes tend to be a long reach away with my chopsticks, he'll grab whatever's new or extra delicious on the table and put some in my bowl for me. At first, I didn't really like this because I felt like he was treating me like a baby or something, but now I realize it's just one of the many unspoken ways he shows me love. In fact, I've come to reciprocate the action over time.
Lu also tends to "take care of me" meaning that when we're eating at a big table and the dishes tend to be a long reach away with my chopsticks, he'll grab whatever's new or extra delicious on the table and put some in my bowl for me. At first, I didn't really like this because I felt like he was treating me like a baby or something, but now I realize it's just one of the many unspoken ways he shows me love. In fact, I've come to reciprocate the action over time.
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| Hanging out under a bridge? You're perfectly safe here and enjoy the artwork! |
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| Is it raining out? Just ride your bike with an umbrella in hand! |
All in all, there are many things I love about living in China. Of course, there are many downsides (in my opinion) to living here ie. pollution, lack of personal space, noisiness, blahblahblah, but China's got some good things going for it. Although those downsides can sometimes get overwhelming, I always have to remind myself of how grateful I should be to be living here in China with caring people all around me and many new experiences to be had.
Hope this post could give you some new information about China that you didn't already know! If you have any questions or concerns, please leave them in the comment section below.
Thanks so much for reading and have a fantastic day~<3
Josie
